Singlehood at some point or another in our lives is inevitable – we’re all born single, and we may find ourselves thrust back into singlehood at any moment.
Often when we’re single and unhappy about it, we tend to look at our friends in relationships with a hint of jealousy in our eyes, and begrudgingly spend our nights turning over in bed, missing the warm feel of a body next to us. However, our friends may be looking right back at us, envying the independence and freedom we have to do whatever we want without having to run it by another person. The grass always seems greener on the other side.
The moral of the story? Whether you’re in a relationship or single, you should always make the most of it, and live life to the fullest. To help you on your journey, we’ve compiled a list of 7 habits from some of the most happily single women we know and love. Read on to find out what they do to live their best lives, with or without another person in it.
1. They laugh and smile a lot
Did you know that even faking a smile can trick your brain into lifting your mood and lowering your stress?
It’s true – you can actually manifest happiness simply by smiling or laughing. When you frown, you actually make yourself feel angrier, even if you weren’t angry to begin with – your mind will wander to angry thoughts you’ve had in the past.
Make it a habit to smile or laugh throughout the day. A great way to remind yourself to do this is by drawing smiley faces on sticky notes and scattering them around the house in places where you go most often – your coffee machine, your bathroom mirror, the key holder. Then, every time you see it, smile!
Another thing that lifts your mood and lowers stress? Orgasms. That’s right – treating yourself to an orgasm a day can keep the sadness away (that’s our motto, at least). If you’re looking for some fun new toys to experiment with, like a fabulous big dildo to stand in as your interim partner, check out this guide from HotCherry.
2. They practice gratitude
There are plenty of things to be grateful for, as a single woman or not. Health, financial stability, good family relationships, loyal friends, a comfortable home…there are always things to be grateful for, and happy people recognize that.
They don’t spend all their time focusing on all the things they don’t have, like a partner and maybe even kids. Instead, they practice gratitude about all the things they do have, including all the perks of being single – because there are tons. From being able to pick up and move across the world without having to consult another person, to not having to attend their partner’s annoying cousin’s wedding, make sure to spend time remembering and appreciating all the perks, no matter how small.
3. They do self-care
Happy single women practice self-care on a regular basis. Not just mentally, with things such as meditation, yoga or even therapy. But they also physically take care of themselves – they make healthy eating a part of their lifestyle, they keep themselves well-groomed, and keep their overall well-being at the forefront of their priorities.
If you’re single, happy and fit, people are going to gravitate towards you. So, make sure you’re taking care of yourself.
4. They get a pet
Pet therapy has seen a rise over the years, and many people agree that they can help enormously with mental health. But while there isn’t much scientific reasoning to back this just yet, there is tons of research that shows that social support helps people battle loneliness and anxiety, and that includes the social support of a pet.
So, if you’ve been considering getting a pet and are committed to the responsibility of caring for it, they can bring you a ton of stress busting and joy.
5. They maintain close relationships with friends and family
Humans are pack animals – we like to feel like we belong to a tribe. We have a biological need to feel accepted, particularly by our own immediate family and inner circle of friends. And when we do feel accepted by them, the sense of belonging fills us up and makes us feel a lot happier. So, make sure to keep your relationships a priority. Try not to cut ties with your family and close friends, unless they’re damaging to your mental health.
Spend quality time with them, have meaningful conversations, and also, have fun.
6. They develop hobbies
If you look at all the happily single women you know, you might find a common trait – they all have hobbies.
They’re not just sitting at home, twiddling their thumbs, waiting for Mr. Right to come knocking on their door. No, ma’am – they are independent women who keep themselves busy doing things that they love. These hobbies can be anything – from cooking, to going to bootcamps, to playing piano…the list is endless.
They spend time perfecting their skills, or developing new hobbies once they get bored of one. The point is, when you’re busy, you’re less needy to potential suitors when you do end up meeting them. When you have hobbies, you become your own person, happy and complete.
7. They keep their hearts open for love
We don’t want to sound too cliché, but bear with us: you may find love when you’re least expecting it. That being said, if your heart isn’t open to it, you might just shut the door on the potential love of your life.
Happy women don’t orient their entire lives around finding the right person – those high expectations often lead to disappointment, anger and bitterness. Happy women create a full life that keeps them happy and satisfied, with or without a partner. They keep their hearts open for love, because they know that like attracts like. The happier and more well-rounded they are, the more they will attract people who are the same. And that’s what we all want at the end of the day, isn’t it?